It may come as some surprise, but it turns out that women don't like oral sex as much as your porn collection might suggestion. Sure, some light licking and careful thrusting can send even the most reserved lass over the edge, but the truth is: when you head down south, I'm more panicked than pleasured. I'm completely taken out of my sexual reverie, and my brain switches off the pleasure centres and sends me spiralling into a state of worry.
I don't worry about anything specific; it's just a trigger that changes enjoyment into something else entirely. After that initial moment of worry or panic, I'm suddenly left to my own devices and find myself thinking about everything else except for the moment on hand, as it were.
Still, men seem to enjoy doing it. One minute, you're into some heavy petting on the sofa, or in bed, and the next, he's propping your legs up and shimmying down your body. Shudder.
So what is it about oral sex that's got my knickers in a twist? First of all , it's not just me. Oh no. It turns out, this is pretty mainstay for the female population. We all enjoy a light tongue lapping and yes, to be fair, a cheeky oral sex simulator toy won't go amiss in our bedrooms, but the fact of the matter is that if the mood isn't right, or I'm not screaming for attention, I'm likely not going to want you nudging your way downstairs.
There's nothing more uncomfortable than a man who doesn't know what he's doing, or a bright morning when all you want to do is get up to pee and all he wants to do is what? Not now, please. It's not that we don't like oral sex. It's that we don't like it at the wrong time. In fact, it's enough to send me into a full body cringe, and to send my mind wandering off on to other things. What time is the delivery arriving? What am I making for dinner? Are you almost done down there?
Sarah Hepola wrote an article on the very same thing for Marie Claire magazine, and concluded that it's not that we don't like oral sex (because, let's face it, we do), it's just that some of us aren't wired to transform 'into a puddle of id' at the mere mention of cunninglingus.
So what's a girl to do? It's simple. Be clear with your partner about what you like and don't like. For example, I only enjoy receiving oral sex when I'm really close to orgasms, or when the lights are down low and I'm in the mood for a long night in bed. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want. Don't be afraid to redirect his attention elsewhere if he tries to go down on you and you're not in the mood. A little bit of tact and a lot of sexual prowess can go a long way to maintaining egos and enjoying plenty of other sexual acts together.
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