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by Katie Peachesa September 14, 2017 4 min read

A Beginner's Guide to Whipping And Spanking

By Tatyana Dyachenko

In BDSM pleasure and pain augment each other, usually people have fantasies about being slave masters, dishing out a little punishment. Whipping and spanking plays a major part of BDSM play, there are many accessories to assist you with this and these accessories will also make you look the part whether you are the Dom or Sub.


Although it can be painful, spanking can add to the pleasure pain dynamic in BDSM and in some instance is known to induce orgasm when paired with pleasure sensations during intercourse. During role playing scenarios in BDSM spanking can be enjoyed in part as punishment and also helps produce endorphins that make your body become more responsive.

Spanking is quite easy, though a measure of restraint is needed for sensitive partners. Start off with spanking using your hands, it feels more natural and most partners love it. For the best results spank with your fingers together, in an upward motion and spank lightly.

Go for harder spanks varying the positions you spank, the lower fleshier part of the cheeks are more sensitive. Interchange between cheeks, varying frequency, force and placement when spanking.

Going further a more advanced approach can be taken, purchase a bondage paddle available online or in stores. This will add to variation and a different feel and pleasure when interchanged between paddle and hand. Always remember it’s not recommended to spank someone any other place other that the bottom and upper thighs. Always respect the safe word from your partner it gives you the bound in which to play in. Always take care to tend to your skin after spanking, use cool moisturizer most recommended is aloe vera gel moisturizer and other more specialist products found in store for skin care after spanking.


A flogger is a whip with tailed ends, in BDSM it’s mostly used to whip the back, bottom and or thighs, although there are some who use it all over the body. The pain the flogger produces is quite intense and concentrated because of the tailed ends.

When shopping for a flogger its best to start with one made of softer materials, thick tails and with rounded heads. It’s not recommended to just swing the flogger haphazardly and take great precautions not to hurt your partner, get your partner to feel the material of the flogger on their skin by rubbing it over your partner’s skin slowly. Swing your flogger in a circular motion try this from different angles and distances so as to see which one best suits.


Remember to use your safe word when the pain becomes unbearable Don not flog the face or head or neck Always have enough room to swing the flogger.


Whips offer a sharper more intense sensation than a flogger or paddle because of their thinness. When beginning experiment with a riding crop this are a good start before employing more advanced techniques. Always do proper research and there is a wide range of resources that will help you master being a Dom. Whipping can be done anywhere and the good part is in your house you can take it anywhere, on the kitchen table, the dining table, anywhere you would like to administer this erotic pleasurable punishment.

Some people enjoy using bullwhips which are more advanced and difficult to use and demand care when being used as you can actually injure yourself using one. Take some time to practice using bullwhips before trying out on your partner. There fetish workshops which are held where you can get some help and practice using bullwhips. Also take note that bullwhips require a lot of open space when using them.


Research and practice.

The safe word is your best friend as pain from whipping is very intense.
Always be sure you are well versed in using a bullwhip and that you will hit the intended area on your partner and if you are not sure on how to use one the keep away from bullwhips.


A cane delivers sharp and intense pain with a hint of sensual pleasure perfect for role playing as a teacher disciplining a student. Canes come in many types from different materials, and for beginning try a PVC cane. Use the lower end of the cane to spank your partner on the bottom using your dominant hand avoid hitting with the tip of the cane. Spank with a ‘flicking’ motion from a few inches from your partner’s bottom. Increase the height from which you spank using a swinging motion. Do remember that using a cane to spank your partner may leave some red streak marks on the skin, take note to hit the fleshier parts of your partner’s bottom.


  • Use treated or covered canes to avoid splits or splinters which can cut or hurt the skin. Avoid using the tip of the cane on the skin it produces very sharp and uncomfortable pain and it will hurt.
  • Listen out for the safe word always
Katie Peachesa
Katie Peachesa

Katie Peachesa is a sex and lingerie blogger based out of the urban chic Wapping in the heart of East London, United Kingdom. In her spare time, Katie enjoys photography, yoga and fitness, a bit of boxing, traveling, keeping up with the latest fashion trends and mudlarking and exploring pastoral settings. You are likely to find Katie in an artisan cafe in Brick Lane on a Saturday afternoon furiously typing her next article on her laptop whilst she is sipping on her flat white and drawing inspiration from the hustle and bustle in the heart of creative London. Katie runs the "Fashion Life Mag" and has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Allure, Grazia, Tatler, Evening Standard and other popular media outlets.

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