The biggest mistake men and women make with regards to the often elusive female orgasm is to approach it in a mechanical ‘how-to’ fashion. A woman’s orgasm is far more complicated and dependant on mood and environment than a man’s and should be approach with an entirely different mind-set. A woman’s orgasm is mostly a matter of psychology. Of course physical stimulation is essential, but making sure you or your female partner are in the correct frame of mind is of the utmost importance.
Scientists continue to be mystified as to the point of the female orgasm as it serves no reproductive purpose in either humans or our primate cousins. Some say that it exists in order to bond a female animal to a male animal, while some argue that reaching orgasm encourages female animals to be more promiscuous to promote sperm competition. The truth is that no one can agree on this, so for now we need to view the female orgasm as a fabulous phenomenon which the vast majority of us have the ability to attain!
Below are a few tips and tricks you might like the employ next time you’re chasing the big ‘o’
Mind set – first of all and most importantly if you begin your love making with the female orgasm as the ultimate goal you are very unlikely to get there, simply because you are putting a great deal of pressure on yourself and your partner causing feelings of stress and anxiety. Try to make your sessions as relaxing as possible at the beginning and don’t even think about orgasms yet. Relaxation techniques include having a bath or shower together, massage, scented candles etc. For successful sex, you need strong foundations!
Communication – the best way to know if your partner is enjoying what you’re doing is to ask, and ladies if you’re not enjoying it speak up! If both partners are communicating and willing to show each other what they like you are onto a sure fire winner.
Slow it down – because while men may like fast and furious action, women enjoy a slower pace…at least at the beginning. Don’t rush through foreplay and don’t allow the sex to become too furious too fast (unless you can’t help it!). Build up the anticipation, momentum and intensity of stimulation slowly until she’s about to pop.
Toys – adding a vibrating toy of some kind is a great way of helping to ensure you or your partner reach that big ‘o’. Use the toy for stimulation, but stop using it and complete the task yourself.
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